Master Your Thinking and Beat Bad Moods
by Marlene Chism
used with permission -

Let's face it; a bad mood impacts your personal effectiveness. If your mood is not kept in check you can damage important relationships in the workplace and beyond. Moods are simply a manifestation of energy.

I like Eckhart Tolle's definition of emotion: "Emotions are the body's reaction to the mind." If you agree, then it makes sense that in order to beat a bad mood you must master your mindset, or your thinking.

What if you could reprogram your brain so that you don't experience bad moods as often?

One way to master your thinking is by learning how to ask a better question. By asking a better question, you get a better answer. When you get better answers, you have better results. Better results are what "becoming a creator" is about in your life and business.  Here are five practical questions you can use to turn your thinking around and beat bad moods and live your life with no complaints, no excuses, and no regrets.

1. What are my choices?
Bad moods steal your power. When you find your choice you get your power back. By asking the question, "What are my choices," you have already claimed that choices are available, and that is the path to reclaiming mental mastery instead of being sucked into victim mentality.

2. What am I committed to?
One of my affirmations is by our choices we reveal our commitments. By checking in with yourself and addressing your commitments, you lay the foundation to take responsiblity for your results. If you are really committed to being happy you will make more conscious choices. This question can help you to rise above the circumstance and overcome the challenges in your path.

3 What am I thinking?
So often we are slaves to our thoughts instead of master over them. If you are spiriling down, the solution is to first notice the thoughts (voice in your head) contributing to the bad mood. What stories and half-truths are you telling yourself? The second part of thought mastery is to speak back and take charge. Visually see yourself winking at the voice in your head, then imagine (or say it out loud) "Thank you for sharing." This helps you to acknowledge the negativity then dismiss it as insignificant.

4. Where would I be without this drama?
Sometimes its just easier to get attached to the drama and the story than to make a commitment to change a bad habit or shake things up in a bad workplace situation or even a personal relationship. Asking the question, "Where would I be without this drama?" can help you identify the real problem, perhaps even see things in a humorous way and create new choices.

5. What might I be resisting?
If you are in a really bad mood then instead of beating yourself up, dedicate a period of time to sulk, be angry and feel the mood. In other words, accept "what is" and to release the negative energy that is keeping you stuck, then you open the door for seeing a possible solution. When you make this conscious choice to release the resistance, you put yourself back in control instead of being a victim to negativity.

In a nutshell, don't use a bad mood as an excuse for poor performance. Master your thinking, ask a better question and your energy will shift, and your results are sure to follow.

Marlene Chism is the author of Stop Workplace Drama, and a professional speaker. Order a copy of Stop Workplace Drama and join the book club at 

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