Master Your Thinking and Beat
by Marlene Chism
used with permission -
face it; a bad mood impacts your personal effectiveness. If
your mood is not kept in check you can damage important
relationships in the workplace and beyond. Moods are simply
a manifestation of energy.
I like Eckhart
Tolle's definition of emotion: "Emotions are the body's
reaction to the mind." If you agree, then it makes sense
that in order to beat a bad mood you must master your
mindset, or your thinking.
What if you could
reprogram your brain so that you don't experience bad moods
One way to master
your thinking is by learning how to ask a better question.
By asking a better question, you get a better answer. When
you get better answers, you have better results. Better
results are what "becoming a creator" is about in your life
Here are five practical questions you can use to turn your
thinking around and beat bad moods and live your life with
no complaints, no excuses, and no regrets.
1. What are my
Bad moods steal your power. When you find your choice you
get your power back. By asking the question, "What are my
choices," you have already claimed that choices are
available, and that is the path to reclaiming mental mastery
instead of being sucked into victim mentality.
2. What am I
One of my affirmations is “by our choices we reveal our
commitments.” By checking in with yourself and addressing
your commitments, you lay the foundation to take
responsiblity for your results. If you are really committed
to being happy you will make more conscious choices. This
question can help you to rise above the circumstance and
overcome the challenges in your path.
3 What am I
So often we are slaves to our thoughts instead of master
over them. If you are spiriling down, the solution is to
first notice the thoughts (voice in your head) contributing
to the bad mood. What stories and half-truths are you
telling yourself? The second part of thought mastery is to
speak back and take charge. Visually see yourself winking at
the voice in your head, then imagine (or say it out loud)
"Thank you for sharing." This helps you to acknowledge the
negativity then dismiss it as insignificant.
4. Where would
I be without this drama?
Sometimes it’s just easier to get attached to the drama and
the story than to make a commitment to change a bad habit or
shake things up in a bad workplace situation or even a
personal relationship. Asking the question, "Where would I
be without this drama?" can help you identify the real
problem, perhaps even see things in a humorous way and
create new choices.
5. What might I
If you are in a really bad mood then instead of beating
yourself up, dedicate a period of time to sulk, be angry and
feel the mood. In other words, accept "what is" and to
release the negative energy that is keeping you stuck, then
you open the door for seeing a possible solution. When you
make this conscious choice to release the resistance, you
put yourself back in control instead of being a victim to
In a nutshell,
don't use a bad mood as an excuse for poor performance.
Master your thinking, ask a better question and your energy
will shift, and your results are sure to follow.
Marlene Chism is the author of Stop Workplace Drama, and a
professional speaker. Order a copy of Stop Workplace Drama
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